Definition of a Gentleman

Definition of a Gentleman
Todd Shelton | 6/19/2003

by Robert E. Lee, President of Washington College, 1865 to 1870

The forbearing use of power does not only form a touchstone, but the  manner in which an individual enjoys certain advantages over others is a test of a true gentleman.

 

The power which the strong have over the weak, the employer over the employed, the educated over the unlettered, the experienced over the confiding, even the clever over the silly Ð the forbearing or inoffensive use of all of this power or authority, or a total abstinence from it when the case admits it, will show the gentleman in a plain light.

 

The gentleman does not needlessly and unnecessarily remind an offender of a wrong he may have committed against him. He cannot only forgive, he can forget; and he strives for that nobleness of self and mildness of character which impart sufficient strength to let the past be but the past. A true man of honor feels humbled when he cannot help humbling others.

 

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